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Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life |  | Authors: Henry Cloud, John Townsend
Publisher: Zondervan
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Pages: 304
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Dimensions (in): 8.4 x 5.5 x 1
ISBN: 0310247454
Dewey Decimal Number: 158
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ASIN: 0310247454
Publication Date: April 1, 1992
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Having clear boundaries is essential to a healthy, balanced lifestyle. A boundary is a personal property line that marks those things for which we are responsible. In other words, boundaries define wh
Amazon.com Review
In order to call themselves good Christians, many people have drawn overly flexible boundaries (unwilling to say no, always accommodating others' needs) or overly rigid boundaries (to the point of being righteous and judgmental). Psychologists and inspirational speakers Cloud and Townsend show readers how to set reasonable boundaries in order to follow the true path of Christianity. This book has become immensely popular, most likely because it makes personal boundaries easier to define and is filled with spiritual purpose. Some cautions: the format can be overly self-helpish for such a complex discussion and the authors at one point imply that judicious spankings may be an acceptable form of setting boundaries with children. However, many Christians will probably find themselves grateful for this biblical context of boundaries. --Gail Hudson
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 Changed my life and everyone around me March 9, 2010
Kerri (CA United States)
Boundaries works in every area of your life. Many people focus on changing others through trying to control others which, never works and only makes everyone miserable. Boundaries teaches you to control only your own life, what you're will to accept or not accept and in turn it makes everyone around you responsible for their own life. Your kids will have a higher self esteem, they will become more responsible, they will be happier, and your relationships will be better than ever with everyone you choose to keep in your life, whether it be an out of control child, a judgemental parent or spouse, a controlling person in your life. The list goes on.
P.S. Overly controlling men do not want their spouse or girlfriend to get a hold of this book. It would do them a lot of good to read the book but highly unlikely. If you want to weed out a control freak just have this book lying around and wait for the negative comments to start coming out.
Potentially useful, sometimes unrealistic. March 8, 2010
Cynthia Danute Cekauskas, LCSW (Savannah, Georgia)
0 out of 1 found this review helpful
Although this book attempts to address an extremely important aspect of human relationships (i.e. establishing healthy boundaries) there are times when I feel the book was not very realistic. In an ideal world perhaps information imparted would work quite well. Unfortunately we do not live in an ideal world.
For instance in Chapter 9 the authors attempt to discuss "Boundaries and Your Spouse." The authors state "in marriage...When the two become one on their wedding day, spouses do not lose their individual identities. Each participates in the relationship, and each has his or her own life." Wouldn't that be nice if that were true? What IS realistic far too often is that the WOMAN does in fact lose HER identity to the man as evidenced from the beginning with her very last name change. The man does NOT lose his. The authors continue "The problem arises when one trespasses on the other's personhood, behaviors, choices, and values of the other...To try to control these things is to violate someone's boundaries." This I fully agree with but having worked in the field of domestic violence for many years is NOT what I often saw. The authors rightfully point out that in 1 Corinthians 7:4-6 the Bible says that the husband and wife have "authority over each other's bodies." Husband and wife are advised to submit onto each other. However, what many priests and ministers overly stress is the necessity of the WIFE'S submission to the husband. Apparently it is left to the husband to decide what form this submission should take. If, heaven forbid, the wife is not submissive enough, there are many husbands who feel justified to use physical abuse to make this happen. This violation of the wife's boundaries does not seem to be addressed in any of the churches currently in existance.
In Chapter 11 "Boundaries and Work" it is NOT realistic nor particularly helpful to confront an overly critical supervisor telling them how you feel about their attitude and how it affects you. Particularly those of us who have been in the military or worked for the Department of Defense know that this would not likely have a good outcome. This would be true particularly if you followed the authors advice: "If she will not agree to change, you may want to tell her that you do not wish to talk with her until she gets her attitude under control." I have to say though that the authors DO offer the alternative of following a company's grievance policy. This sometimes might work. The authors make the point that "The important thing is that you can't control her, but you can choose to limit your exposure to her either physically or emotionally distancing yourself from her. This is control."
Still the ability to establish REALISTIC boundaries can be very helpful and one worth exploring. This book can help you with that.
One of the most helpful practical books for life March 3, 2010
Jason (Texas)
0 out of 1 found this review helpful
This is a must read for anyone. It is very helpful and practical for one of life's biggest challenges for all people. I have used it in counseling to help a number of other people and have found the insights and practical steps liberating for me personally.
Great, appropriate March 2, 2010
M. Trojahn (central Illinois)
0 out of 1 found this review helpful
Great book. Helped me know when to say no, not to be mean, but to preserve myself for the MOST important things.
Boundaries February 25, 2010
Jane A. Dalton (Kansas)
Cloud & Townsend are excellent speakers with excellent knowledge and have a great presentation....but not in this! The information they have is so valuable, so life changing and so very LOST in this video. You will spend much of your time watching graphics including an irritating pencil streaking across the screen for endless periods of time. This nonsense interrupts the speakers so often you almost want to give up watching it. You cannot even skip to the next session to avoid it.
Cloud & Townsend gave a presentation in a video years ago that I viewed and it was so remarkably well done. I even tried to buy it...but it does not exist. I tried to get the audio version of this video and sadly it is not presented by these speakers but someone else who you cannot stand to listen to. My advice: they completely re-do this project (both video & audio) and fire the graphics people, the reader, and do their presentation without interruption. Only then can their message be heard and understood.
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